-Trip down on memory lane-
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Recently there has been many changes. Whether it is the club, the members, the overall ambiance and/or the environment. Took some time to reflect and digest and go back to the old days.
Memoirs:
{Not Memoirs of a Geisha kinda story}Memoirs by definition: a historical account or biography written from personal knowledge.
Everything is personal. Whatever you write here on the forum is personal and subjective. When I was going thru past reports, It puts a smile on my face. It is as if I was re-enacting the stories one way or another. Report 1: Dr evil and all these Mini Me’s. Trying to make my report more intriguing by associating members to characters from Austin Powers. Yes. The Club is very local. Yes it may cater to some English speakers/readers, but it is a local Swing club after all. My English reports are not catered to anyone but myself. I write to create memories. I write to catalogue events that happens to me during the event. Yes . It does give prospective participant an idea of how the parties are like. It’s fun. It’s entertaining, even though probably the majority of the readers don’t really get what I’m saying or the “humour” behind it all. As time goes by, I attended more and more events, written more and more reports, met more and more members, and share more and more experience and become more and more involved and invested. Writing reports in Chinese ... sole purpose was to give an easier read for members, not because I want to improve my chinese or I could explain myself better. No. It’s all in the best interest of the club members in general. From regular parties , to theme parties , to outbound trips, SBC indeed given me a lot of experience, memories, happenings , etc etc etc , and of course all in a “safe/comfortable” environment. There were times when Dr would ask me: “QB want to co-host?” Or I ask Dr “Let’s make a theme-party”. As long there are ideas and doable, it happens. I still remember my first co-host party. I tried to invest some thoughts into making it interesting. Fairy tale, “once upon a time” .. think of ways to make it fun so that after the party I can write an entertaining report.
The process is enjoyable
“Planning”Themed parties are always fun. Our previous parties included: Halloween, Christmas, anniversary, lingerie, back-to-school, SM etc etc. Costumes are always fun to have. Adds an extra touch to it.
“During the party”. Not much to say. Enjoy. Play. Execute.
“Post-party”Memoirs are what I always look forward to writing. Thinking back to events that happened during and writing it out. I’m a writer. I enjoy writing. I put a lot of personal thoughts and feelings into my writing. Im explicit. I enjoy it. Reading other reports are quite rewarding as well.
As time goes by, I see a change in my writing, my reports. More and more personal thoughts have been invested in my reports. Developing a closer connection with members. Gradually, SBC became a part of me. I feel like I belong to a big family. All the laughters , all the shared experience, the celebrations, the talks, I guess that’s what’s different about SBC compared to other clubs (not that I’m saying I have been to others), more like my assumption. When you think of a Swingers / Sex club .. it’s pretty normal to think of “group orgies, all about sex, you go and you shag, once finish you leave”. Yes . It does seem like it should be like that. But SBC is more than that. People don’t rush into things. People talk and socialise. Play games to break the ice. Talk to create a Bond first before proceeding into more advanced situation. That is the SBC culture. Some members may not understand it or don’t have the patience to go thru the process. Is it so bad to create a connection first ? I , myself , crave for connection. So I’m happy SBC is the way it is. To be honest, yes, SBC is becoming more of a social club. As time goes by, yes, less themed parties or outbound gatherings. That didn’t stop new joiners from coming. There are still new members joining day-to-day. Yes. Not much promotion or “social exposure” from the club. It really isn’t necessary. I’m sure the members here don’t enjoy being too exposed, again this is an alternative lifestyle. It’s meant to be “alternative” and “private” in a way. Members come and go. It’s normal. The club is here to provide a place to “play” not to “keep” people. Not trying to speak for others so I’ll revert back to my perspective.
Now. A big trip down on memory lane made me reflect on how I am as QueenB. Yes. I’m the English speaker of the bunch. Not that I don’t speak Cantonese nor I don’t understand, just English is more of a mother tongue for me. Yes I try to speak canto more at the club just to cater what the majority of the members speak. If you speak canto with me, I reciprocate. If you speak English with me, even better. Time to time, we get the “non-Asian” members . It’s great to make it more multicultural. I enjoy it . I like it. Always wondering how these “non-Asians” come to find the club. Yes the forum has chinese/English. But generally speaking, it takes a lot of effort and patience to really manage your way around the forum. Coming to the parties indeed is a big step for foreigners. Even I at the beginning had a hard time managing the forum, let alone coming to a party...I always welcome foreigners. Yes maybe not everybody’s cup of tea, it’s understandable. Everyone has their choices. After all we are adults here.
Now, Seeing how the club evolves, less of a sex club more of a social club, less themed more regular parties, everyone going at their own pace , doing whatever they enjoy, whether to come to talk, eat , drink or well... shag, open doors, closed doors. Definitely not your typical “sex club”. Well I’ve never been around pre-dr time where kururu used to host. Even the members have changed . People come and go. Different needs catered to different members.
Trip down on memory lane
Seeing the club now as it is. Dr report on his thoughts and feelings. I guess it is time to move on. Maybe a change is good for the club. But the club will not move itself. Members , the host, the overall ambiance/environment need to move together. If you want more parties, speak up. If you want themed parties , speak up. If you feel for something, speak up. I guess, a lack of motivation is in place. Maybe less social , more action could do some good. Make it more a swing club rather than a social club. Open up more doors instead of restricting them. Keep it coming. Keep it entertaining. Yes maybe it’s time for new people to step up. But as a swing club, participants are the key. So why not put some inputs or thoughts as to how to make the club more lively. Without participants and host’s best interest, nothing will happen. After all, this is not a one man’s game...
Back to the party that happened...Taking it slow. Revisiting old territories with new restrictions hopefully gaining new perspectives. No it’s not exactly the kind of group orgies you would imagine , but hey at least playing on the same bed , watching others sweat and moan bedside you, hands here hands there, doors open, with all due respect from each other of course, group sex can be fun.Sometimes I think how fun group games used to be. I miss it. It brings people together, sharing laughter and such. Playing in open spaces I.e Sofa by the living room, gives perspective, gives entertainment to the players and the spectators around. It doesn’t mean you have to let others join. It doesn’t mean you’re obligated to let others have access to you. You can still play, play on your own terms. We all share similar interest—sex. So why aren’t we exploring it and sharing experience ?
SexIt’s all about SexWe are here for sexSo Let’s talk about Sex.Love QB
本主題由 Dr. 於 2020-8-5 04:39 移動
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QueenB 發表於 2018-7-10 11:54
Revisit and laugh about it with my grandchildren....
That’s bit of a stretch hhh
Well that depends what kind of world it would become by the time we’re old and skinny.
Maybe sex party is a regular thing by then, and i’d tell my grandkids that grandpa was a pioneer in this -
gideon 發表於 2018-6-5 11:32
i like how you put it. these memories are for yourself to read. not a showoff article.
of course, i ...
Revisit and laugh about it with my grandchildren....
That’s bit of a stretch hhh -
i like how you put it. these memories are for yourself to read. not a showoff article.
of course, its meant for sharing too, but whether to write it in your own language or in a language that suits your readers, i'd pick the former too.i sincerely hope that someday, you would still come back here and read up all your own articles with your grandchildren and laugh about it.
kudos to you QueenB, lets talk about sex. -
Hmm.......let's talk about sex, let's shag. Hope it isn't just a slogon to some.
There aren't a lot of members who like to put their thoughts in words. Writing indeed can be very sexy. It's interesting to know that I hate reading books but somehow I like reading real life experiences. I think it becomes rather difficult to find people who enjoy writing in the club. And it becomes even more difficult to find people who like to read as well.
Thanks QB for your sharing.
